Often I meet people who want to implement changes to improve their lives whether it be fitness related, relationship improvements, career moves, fall in love with their bodies, improve confidence or the like. They ask me how I create these outcomes for myself. I’m often told that it must come so easily to me and I’m just ‘one of those people’.
Truth be told I’m not exactly sure who these people are that are constantly referenced but it got me thinking. A lot.
There must be commonalities amongst those who succeed and those who struggle. What are they and how would one go about shifting Mindset to move into the category of people who achieve the goals they set and make it look so easy to the rest.
Here’s what I’ve come up with:
1) IF THERE’S A WILL, THERE’S A WAY
This Mindset is about determination. It’s about overcoming obstacles and focusing on outcomes rather than complaining about how hard it is to achieve the outcome along the way.
Journal Practice: Name all your current problems. List them out – people, things, behaviours, places, triggers. Everything. Then work on a possible solution to each (whether you like it or not there’s a solution). The above Mindset would figure out the solution and move mountains to implement it.
2) FAIL TO PLAN, PLAN TO FAIL
This way of thinking is like wrapping your mind around a corner to anticipate what’s to come. It’s about learning to go into your day, week and every situation with a defined approach, preferred course of action and expected outcome. Things may not go according to plan all the time but you go in without fear of what’s to come.
Journal Practice: List out all your excuses and reasons for not (insert your action here…exercising, sleeping, calling, cooking etc). Now write down 3 ways you can do that action with some pre-planning into your schedule.
3) CORRECT AND CONTINUE
Inevitably we ‘fall off the wagon’. For many this would spell disaster because it would mean defining themselves as a failure. Instead, accept the behaviour for what it was, a lapse in judgement, identify the lesson to be learned and MOVE ON. Moving on allows for that mini reset where resolve is strengthened and continuing to move forward is possible.
Journal Practice: List out the most recent attempt at a behaviour change you made. Write down all the possible lessons to be learned from mastering that behaviour. How would you feel if you achieved that behaviour change and what outcomes would it provide for your life? Consider how important this outcome is to you and if you would be willing to continue your journey.
4) HANG WITH THE LIKE-MINDED
They say that you are the sum of the 5 people you hang around most. Why not make those 5 spectacular representations of the type of person you want to be? Elevate those around you and you elevate yourself. Conversations become supportive and goal oriented. Solutions are drawn up instead of endless venting sessions. Celebrations are numerous and continuous because these groups have a lot to be thankful for.
Journal Practice: Name the 5 people you are around most. What value do they bring to your life? Is it enough? If not who else would you want to bring into you circle of influence? What is 1 step you can take to bring this person closer?
5) GOAL BIGGER OR GO HOME.
This is not about setting insurmountable goals to sound cool at parties. This is about a Mindset of constant evolution and growth. It’s about knowing where you want to be in 5 or 10 years. Breaking that down into annual milestones. Then within each year identifying a few key goals that ladder you up to the greater achievement. It’s important to be both realistic and ambitious.
Journal Practice: Do you know where you want to be in 5 or 10 years? If not start by writing out your perfect day as if you were living it hourly. What do you do? Who are you with? Where are you? How far off are you from that vision? What are 3 goals you can set today to begin the journey forward?
As you can see those who succeed actually do a lot of self-reflection and work on Mindset continuously. While it might look effortless on the outside I’d encourage you to begin working these 5 Mindset Mantras along with their corresponding journaling exercises to achieve the goals you have living in your heart ready to be brought to reality.